Biola has a gender problem. Apart from the popular insistence on “separate but equal” roles for the sexes, Biola is also spiritually and emotionally harmful towards those at our school part of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer community. At Biola, the LGBTQ community is not only ignored in terms of support and guidance, our community is pathologized and emotionally brutalized. We daily hear your use of gay slurs, and are even more hurt by your insistence that you “love the sinner but hate the sin;” meaning that you think some of our deepest and most intimate human desires are tragic and damaging, or even worse, evil. There are days when we risk our grades and avoid class because we know that the “issue of homosexuality” will be discussed and we don’t want to face that instantaneous terror of the invisible spotlight.
The assertion that our love for God is contingent upon our striving towards singleness/celibacy or gender normativity is one that causes profound pain, confusion, and alienation. If we were heterosexual, we would be told that our feelings for romantic intimacy must be kept at bay until marriage. Instead, we are told that our desires for intimacy are in themselves perverted, and acting on them is damnable. We do not want to be told that our seeking a spouse and children is the moral equivalent to adultery, murder, or even telling a lie. We know that “everyone sins,” and you have a problem with saying homosexuality is a “worse sin,” but there are thousands upon thousands of LGBTQ Christians who do not think homosexuality or being transgender are sinful at all. Our queerness is not the same as the tendency towards a sin, such as alcoholism, and our identities are not a misappropriation of worldly values. Instead, our queerness is an integral part of our humanity.
First and foremost, we advocate that Biola live up to its stated standard to "offer safety that promotes openness" on the topic of sexual orientation. However, despite these nice words, the fear of expulsion among us is great. Biola should, allow room for LGBTQ students who find themselves at this university for whatever reason to feel safe from emotionally unsafe classroom/social settings and the threat of expulsion, no matter their relationship status or level of openness regarding their sexuality. We want Biola University to know that the school's environment is fundamentally unsafe for LGBTQ students, and that our sexual orientation or gender identity does not hinder our relationship with Christ.
We are a group of Biola students who see themselves as blessed to have queer identities, but are more proud of our identities in Christ. Partner with us in making Biola a truly inclusive place for all.
"First of all," he said, "if you can learn a simple trick, Scout, you’ll get along a lot better with all kinds of folks. You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view–"
"Sir?" "— until you climb into his skin and walk around in it."
- To Kill a Mocking Bird
Heterosexuals . . .
when speaking of their heterosexuality (relationship for example), are not accused of pushing their agenda on others.
are not asked why they choose to be straight, nor asked why they have to be public about it.
if closeted, do not live in fear of financial, emotional, or physical consequences, should their family, friends, employers, or roommates find out about their sexual orientation.
are not assumed of being abused, confused, pedophilic, or immoral because of their sexual orientation.
are not told by Christians, “We love the person but hate the sin of heterosexuality”.
do not have to endure people trying to convince them to change their sexual orientation.
do not have to defend their heterosexuality.
are accepted into all religious communities, and are not spiritually condemned because of their orientation.
are not bullied, judged and widely stereotyped due to their sexual orientation.
are not at risk of having the social perceptions of their femininity / masculinity negatively affect simply due to sexual identity.
Gay relationships are more egalitarian.
Our advice on fashion and interior design is sought and respected.
Parades with rainbows!!
Communication and mutual understanding is easier for same-sex couples.
Neil Patrick Harris and Ellen DeGeneres.
No accidental pregnancy.
We tend to have an increased appreciation for the finer things: theater, flannel, pop culture, Mean Girls, San Francisco, Lady Gaga, Modern Family, and cats.
We are not pressured by our parents to get married and make grandchildren for them.
Our wardrobes double when we’re in a relationship.
Life is just more fierce and fabulous.